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Saturday, February 14, 2015

Day 21: Happy Valentine's Day!

Congratulations...you have set aside 21 days to learn how to truly love yourself: MIND, BODY, AND SOUL!!!

BUT...it doesn't stop here.

This is just the beginning!

You MUST continue to work...to grow...to learn!

If you are ready to further your love...check out this great 28 day challenge by Molly Galbraith from Girls Gone Strong!

This is a great way to continue your journey of learning how to love yourself fully...to praise your accomplishments...to put life into perspective...and to embrace the whole MIND, BODY, SOUL connection in your life...in everything you do!!!

I remember reading many years ago how it takes 21 days to truly create a change within a person for anything.  Thus, allow the last 21 days to be the beginning of something new...something wonderful...something beautiful!  A new way of seeing yourself!

I remember when I was able to make that true transition and shift about 12 years ago.  It was so freeing and beautiful.   It doesn't mean that I don't have moments of "relapses" or down days but I never give into a full blown ugh of self loath or self destructive thinking.

Just as I heard on a fabulous interview of Molly Galbraith recently, loving yourself is a continual journey...a journey worth taking...a journey worth fighting for!

It's kind of fun seeing how long it can go between moments of self doubt and challenge yourself to go even longer...to become even freer!

Thus...go out tonight...enjoy that chocolate...enjoy that glass of wine...enjoy the moment to celebrate your love with those your love...but most of all celebrate the amazing journey you have just completed of loving yourself better and the greater journey of further loving yourself for a lifetime!!!

Happy Valentine's Day!
Many blessings and hugs,
~Kelly ;)

Friday, February 13, 2015

Day 20: Struggle

This last Sunday, our Parish priest had yet again, another, amazing sermon!

It works perfect with the summing up of your 21 day Challenge of loving yourself: MIND, BODY, AND SOUL!

He talked about how when we have struggles we sometimes ask the question WHY.  But what if we asked: WHAT NOW?  It changes how you view the struggle.

Struggle makes you...
 wiser, holier, stronger!

Struggle transforms you!

When we struggle we have a choice to be bitter or to be transformed from the struggle.

I choose to be transformed...to have been taught something...to be stronger...better because of it!
I have actually learned to love and look forward to my challenges...struggles...
Don't get me wrong...I don't relish in it...I am not always rosy about it...BUT I have soooo learned that God has a plan...He is soooo amazing that I look forward to what I am going to learn from it...what growth I will have reached....and what wisdom I will have gained!

If you think about it...struggle gives your appreciation...moments to pause...hind-sight.

If you have had any struggles...challenges...obstacles during this 21 days....don't be discouraged.

Instead view it as an opportunity to learn something about yourself...to grow about yourself...to love yourself even greater!

blessings and hugs,
~Kelly :)

Thursday, February 12, 2015

Day 19: To Lean or not To Lean...

As you are getting closer to wrapping up your 21 Day Challenge to LOVING YOURSELF: MIND BODY AND SOUL....here is something to think about....

Being super lean isn't always healthy!!!
This is so cool...it was from last year...
yet how perfect to reflect on the words...
ON JESUS!!
Do you struggle with wishing you could have six-pack abs?

Do you wish you could have striations on your legs?  Your arms?

Do you want veins popping out on your arms? Rounded shoulders?

For some being this kind of lean comes natural....for others it's not part of their genetics.  This doesn't mean a person isn't healthy or fit or strong or fast....it might just mean that your body doesn't "show it off" the way some others do.

A better way to determine good health...good strength..is for a person to love the body they are in...to not fight it!

I have read so many testimonies of women who have gotten super lean for competitions, for personal goals, for all sorts of reasons....and they ALL talk about the down side of getting too lean.

Besides the psychological down side there is the physical negatives.  It disrupts a woman's cycles.  Okay yo may say "yes...no period!"...but when you disrupt this natural rhythm to your body you are messing with nature...your body...and in my opinion disrespecting God's beautiful plan for our bodies!

It can effect so many things: hair, lubrication, libido, skin, energy, vitality, bone density, strength...etc..

Then there is the psychological...it can create a drug-like effect.  Therefore, when a woman isn't in that super leaned out mode or cycle or goal...she can have feelings of being "fat", even feelings of being judged by those around her.

She can have feelings of being "heavy"...and body distortions.

This can all lead to lack of self worth...lack of self-love...and even lead to food disordering.

When a person becomes obsessed with what foods are "good" or "bad", they forget food is neutral...it has no moral tag.  Food can nourish us...or be gunky... but it is not evil.

Hormonal imbalances create all sorts of distortions within a woman.

So today as you near the end of your 21 Day Challenge really reflect on:

Are you a person who is naturally leaned out?

Are you putting unrealistic expectations on yourself?

Are you truly loving yourself properly to be able to go through physical changes that will or could create up and down emotions?

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Day 18: Words

Words...words...words...

They can nurture.
They can wound.
They can feel warm.
They can be bitter.
They can heal.
They can destroy.

My main love language is words.  I have found over the years I have to be very careful how I hear what others say, especially from those I love dearly.  Their words can hurt me in ways that can effect me even in other areas of my life.

Today's challenge for you is to reflect on what is your LOVE LANGUAGE?  How does it effect choices you make in your faith...your fitness..your food?

What does your love language say about you?

How can you use your love language to learn to love yourself better?

How does your love language effect you:  MIND, BODY, AND SOUL!?

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Day 17: Meditation

This pic may be about Psalm 26:11
but I was thinking how verse 7 and 8
are perfect for today's challenge!
Here is a RARE THING...Kelly is being really short and sweet...lol..

Did you know meditation can have a role in not only your faith walk...your soul...but also your FAT LOSS GOALS!

I know crazy right!?

Today I want you to check out the Gabriel Method of learning how to truly meditate for the WHOLE MIND BODY SOUL CONNECTION....

Hugs and blessings,
~Kelly :)

Monday, February 9, 2015

Day 16: Mind Musings on Monday

It is Monday...

We so often use Mondays to punish ourselves of deciding...ugh...I was terrible this weekend with not exercising...or drinking too much...or eating too late...or sleeping in...or not enough sleep...or not enough prayer....then we resolve to be too harsh on Mondays...

Isn't this quote from Joyce Meyer so perfect...it doesn't matter if
you are a mom or not....it is a fabulous thing to reflect on...
WE ARE NOT PERFECT...HE IS!!!
Instead I want you to view Monday as a day to...

Muse...

Meditate...

Marvel...

be Mindful...

Thus today....think of how you can respect yourself...love yourself...and not beat yourself up for be amazingly human and enjoying this amazing life we have been given.

If you need some extra encouragement...extra motivation on this Monday check out a great interview with Molly Galbraith on Mind Body Musings.  Molly talks about truly respecting the body you are in.  I love how she shares about she is curvy and how she had to learn to truly respect that and love it.  She has friends who lean out in the legs naturally....she leans out in the waist naturally...some lean out in the arms more....etc....but the point is to love the body you are in, even when you are wanting to make changes to still love it right now!!!

You can also find out more about Molly at GIRLS GONE STRONG...this is one of my favorite websites to read and learn from....

GO FORTH AND LOVE THYSELF!!!

Hugs and prayers always,
~Kelly

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Day 15: Keep it Simple on Sunday!


I am going to keep it short and sweet for today because it is SUNDAY!!!

I want you to reflect and think about how has your MIND BODY SOUL challenge been going?

Have you had the chance to really reflect and pray about how you feel about yourself when you eat, exercise, are busy, through work, motherhood, wife....even when you are at church?!

How do all of these aspects of your life impact how you care for yourself...love yourself...all of you!?

I mentioned a few days ago about 40 being a game changer....but it is really more than that.  It is about me also being at a great place in my life.
I will one of these days actually write which books
I take pictures of....
Then I can share it with all of you...
And give credit to the wonderful authors who inspired me!

I LOVE MY LIFE!!!
I LOVE MY CURVES...
I LOVE MY LEGS...
I LOVE MY CHALLENGES...
I LOVE MY GOALS...
I LOVE MY FAMILY...
I LOVE MY DESIRE TO LEARN...
I LOVE BEING DIFFERENT...
I LOVE BEING SHORT...
I LOVE TEACHING MY DAUGHTER...
I LOVE BEING A WIFE TO MY HUSBAND...
I LOVE COOKING...
I LOVE BIO-HACKING...

I LOVE THAT WE ARE NOT CARBON COPIES OF EACH OTHER!

I LOVE THAT I AM SURROUNDED BY AMAZING FRIENDS WHO HELP ME FEEL CHALLENGED AND GROW IN LIFE....

I LOVE ME!!!!

Now it is your turn...write ALL the wonderful things about yourself without buts....without anything but LOVE for self!!!


Saturday, February 7, 2015

Day 14: Unexpected Changes

We all have moments where we set a goal and life decides to give us a curve ball.  

What do you do?
Use this bible verse today to reflect on curve balls you may have.
And instead of getting frustrated...lean on Him.

Do you stomp and have a tantrum?
Do you throw up your hands and say "fine"?
Do you push through even if it isn't wise?

OR...

DO YOU TRUST AND GO WITH THE FLOW OF LIFE....AND DETOUR YOUR GOAL?

I started out this year with setting a goal to train for a Spartan Race.  This week was the week I was going to start putting into place my build up.  Then I went to the doctor to just have him take make sure I didn't have strep...that it was just upper respiratory gunk.

Instead I received all sorts of other instructions of what I need to do for my health for the time being. One of them was the realization that training for a Spartan unfortunately is not the healthiest plan for me right now.

Part of me wanted to rebel...to say "I'm going to train anyways"...part of me wanted to defy the doctors recommendations and say "ah...it's not that bad"....but...

It is not about what I want....it is not about my desires...it is not about MY WILL...

It is about ensuring I can one day do a spartan when I am healthier....it is about being able to pursue other desires and dreams right now and putting that one on hold....and it is about abandoning my will AND TRULY LIVING IN HIS WILL!

I must remember God is in charge and and His wants...desires...dreams for me are greater!!!

Are you experiencing a Challenge within this 21 day Challenge that has had to make you pause and realize when you started this pursuit...or even another goal....that your challenge has taken a bit of a detour....a different route!?

Maybe...just maybe...when you pause take a moment...reflect...journal about it....you will find that God has some big plans for you...for your MIND BODY AND SOUL challenge!

Reflect...pray...and see how this challenge is drawing you nearer to Him in your pursuit of true self love of MIND BODY AND SOUL!


Friday, February 6, 2015

Day 13: Are you enough?

When did women start feeling like being a wife and mother wasn't enough?

When did any of us feel like we have to be and do ten different things in order to have value...to have importance...to have life?

I KNOW BEING A WIFE AND A MOTHER IS MORE THAN ENOUGH!

I love my vocation...my calling...my life!   And you should to!

Today rather than feeling like you are not ______ (fill in the blank) enough....

...smart...
...pretty...
...strong...
...thin...
...tall...
...juggling...

What EVER it is you find yourself saying that you are not enough about....STOP....read the reflection I took a picture of....ponder on the words....and know that HE KNOWS YOU'RE ENOUGH JUST AS YOU ARE...HE LOVES YOU JUST AS YOU ARE!

This isn't a pass on working on ourselves: MIND, BODY, AND SOUL....we always have work to do...but instead it allows us to love ourselves exactly where we are at and to love the process of growing...love the process of change...love the process of learning...love the process of insight...

I smile today...even knowing some of the challenges I have going on...I smile still because I KNOW I am an amazing...strong...beautiful woman...BECAUSE HE MADE ME IN HIS IMAGE!!!

And for me being a wife and mother is beyond a full plate and I am just not interested in having 2 or 3 plates in front of me!  I have given up over eating :)....I like taking my time and savoring the dish I have in front of me and appreciating the wonderful delights I receive from that one plate!

What about you?  What can you do today to change your "not _______ enough" thoughts into AMAZINGLY CONTENT WITH LITTLE AND WITH GROWTH thoughts?

Blessings,
~Kelly :)

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Day 12: Game Changer

Being over the age of forty now is a game changer!
I truly don't remember which book I took this
picture from....but it is so true!!!

Life truly does change:
Physically...
Hormonal...
Mentally...
Emotionally...
Spiritually...

What I say is:

Don't fight it!
Don't argue with it!

EMBRACE IT!
LOVE IT:
ACCEPT IT!
OWN IT!

I'm not above moments of ugh....but here is what almost 41 looks like for me:

I don't care what others think about me!
I don't care if I didn't shave my legs and I am still going to wear a skirt (a long skirt...but a skirt non-the-less).

I don't care if I have strong muscular legs versus long ballerina legs!

I don't care if I am only 5 foot 1 inch and will never be able to pull off some straight elegent run-way evening gown.

I don't care that I love wearing my Mary-Jane crocs with my church dresses versus heels.

I just don't care what others think!!!!  I only care about the freedom and love I experience from and with God!  I only care that I am listening to what HE tells me I should do in taking care of myself: mind, body, and soul!

I respect my genetic make up!
I respect my strengths!
I respect what I see in the mirror!
I respect the amazing God who created me....and trusted me to take care of me!

I have embraced ALL THAT I AM!!

You should too!!!

Quit comparing!

Be an amazing example to the girls and women around you.
Be the example you wish you would have had!

And by all means:
PRAY
SLEEP
EAT
PLAY!

Journal today about how you have been loving yourself better, and what you still need to work on!

hugs and prayers always,
~Kelly

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Day 11: The Root of Love

I am keeping it short and simple today.

 Why?

Because I want each of you to take a moment today and check out this podcast from MIND BODY MUSINGS episode 26 with guest Erin Brown on Raising Confident Daughters.

I want you to reflect during this half way mark of your 21 Day Challenge of MIND BODY AND SOUL....Do you love yourself enough to raise a confident child?

Reflect on what do you need to still work on so you don't pass on to someone you love negative thinking?

I made a promise to myself and my daughter when she was born that I would NEVER say anything negative about myself to her, around her, even think it.

I can relate to what Erin Brown shares about in the podcast; it is hard to break a cycle of something when it is passed on.

This is part of my passion for empowering women!  I want us all to know, believe, live the amazing life we have been gifted...in ALL SHAPES, SIZES AND FORM!!!

Your half way there to a better more wonderful you: MIND BODY AND SOUL!

hugs and prayers always,
~Kelly :)

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Day 10: Pedestal of Pressure!

I feel for the individuals who are in the profession...business...careers of health and wellness; whether it is as a doctor, a personal trainer, a nutritionists, those selling products/services in a store or an at-home business.

The pressure each of these must feel to have that "perfect" look according to the worlds visual standards; it must be overwhelming for some.   After all we are bombarded each day with billboards, ads, movies, and stores to name just a few, of what we "should" look like.  Therefore putting the pressure on these individuals to "look" the part because after all if you look thin then you must be healthy.  After all if you have amazing muscles you must have a great gut.

And what about the pressure those must feel when they don't "look" the part?  Is that doctor taken serious?  Do we not take into account that the personal trainer is wanting to just relax for awhile and not look competition ready?  What if the nutritionist is dealing with hormonal issues?

There is more important things to think about with our health than just "looking" healthy!  Our health is deeper!!!

There are many women I follow about fitness, nutrition, health....they all advocate how having a healthy attitude...healthy gut...healthy mind...healthy strength....healthy movement....healthy love of self is so much more important than the ascetics.

I am sure they feel like a broken record....I know I do sometimes.....but I am passionate and committed to convince all individuals....especially women and young maturing girls to be HEALTHY in their MIND, BODY AND SOUL!  To not focus on: pride, vanity, and ascetics.....and that should include all those who are in these professions.  After all if they are walking the walk of true health then their presence alone will attract others to them to have a true, real, whole life, wellness attitude and approach to living a full and rewarding life!

And we as patients, consumers, clients, followers...need to not have the bar set so high or expect so much from these individuals that we put them on a pedestal of pressure!

What can you do today to take the pressure off of them...off of yourself to be "perfect"?

What scripture can you lean on that will redirect that focus?

Here are my top 10 women/sites I go to for motivation:

Joyce Meyer
Girls Gone Strong
Real Life At Home
Diane Sanfilippo
Sarah Fragosa
Dr. Sara Gottfried
Liz Wolf
JJ Virgin
Katie - Wellness Mama
Mind Body Green

***I purposely didn't add their links so you have to do a little bit of leg work yourself to find what fits you best for motivation.  Plus some of the list names have several avenues of following them, therefore rather than limiting you to my pick...you pick!




Monday, February 2, 2015

Day 9: Being a Minimalist

Today, I want you to think about being a minimalist with your supplementing.

Think:  LESS IS MORE!

When we forget what that word means...we forget to stay connected to what our body truly needs...what our mind truly needs...what our soul truly needs...



Heck...be a minimalist about so many things:

Food
Fitness
Supplements
Hobbies
Cloths
Books
Activities
Schedules

The only thing you should not be a minimalist about is your Faith...your Soul...but you know with that take the minimalist attitude in that: Don't complicate it!  Don't try to get fancy. Keep is simple and child-like...BUT with room for growth and learning!

Thus my challenge for you today with your supplements is:

Do you pick snack bars over taking the time to make sure you have a can of tuna or sardines, or beef jerky handy?

Do you take 10 different pills that could truly be reduced to 2 or 3 by cleaning up your choices?

Do you tap into stimulants rather than giving yourself sleep and down time?

Where can you cut excess that makes life simpler, freer, fuller, and save you some time, money, and energy!



Sunday, February 1, 2015

Day 8: Supplimenting Soap Box

Here is my most recent thoughts...reflections...pondering on products that are geared toward weight loss rather health and wellness...

If a company, a person, an entity is truly interested in a persons health they they should strive to go out of business!

This is what I mean...

For example...does law enforcement like seeing criminals, crime, etc?

Wouldn't a cop love to be out of a job because there is no crime?  I would hope so!!!

With that same thought in mind...wouldn't a person or an entity selling products for wellness and health want to teach individuals how to get healthy, lose body fat, and have energy with as minimal of their products as possible....if not totally just be a support on nutrition without ever selling a product ever again?!

I think this is my biggest beef with so many products that are our there.  Do they really want people to learn how to nourish their bodies with real, whole food?  Are they willing to sacrifice their numbers to teach others how to empower themselves with changes in their food, lifestyle, stress, hormones....etc?!

There are some out there who are trying to do this...I have several friends who I KNOW teach great things to others and are constantly trying to learn as well...yet there are so many who sadly are not.   But I guess we can liken it to a doctor who is out of shape telling his patients to eat good, exercise and get plenty of sleep...

Why does this bother me?  Why do I even go on this tangent?  I don't get anything out of this.  Go back to the why...because I care!

I care because I see so many people feeling desperate or unsatisfied with their health.  These emotions create a willingness within them to sacrifice basic needs or charging things on credit cards to receive their "magic solution".

If a person can just take the time to understand the mind, body and soul of their health....THEY TOO CAN HAVE LASTING RESULTS...LASTING HEALTH....LASTING SATISFACTION...LASTING "WEALTH"...LASTING HAPPINESS!!!

All of this with real food, real knowledge, contentment....real savings!!!

Thus that is my big "beef", my poke, my frustration at the world of packaged products.  I want all individuals to understand that if we are not meeting our nutritional needs with true, real food, then all that packaged stuff that is suppose to enhance your already real food eating, well its going to be wasted...

I want us to quit "buying" into the "promises" and advertisement!

This all concerns me because I am raising an amazing young lady.  She is old enough now to really notice these kinds of adds, this push for women to look "perfect"....this push for "weight loss" everywhere.  I want her to feel empowered enough to know that whole, real food is the way to feeling healthy, feeling balanced, and looking good naturally with the uniqueness that God designed her to be.

I want to know I have raised a young lady who will not feel the pressure to "look like everyone else".

Will I have raised her to know and believe she is beautiful...just the way GOD MADE HER!!?

Will I have raised her to listen to her bodies needs through nourishing food, good sleep and following God's wants and desires not the worlds.

Will I have broken the cycle of insanity thinking that we must all be twiggy to reach health and happiness?

The further insanity of over working?  Over training?  Criticizing oneself?  Eating too fast...too little...processed....supplementing to compensate...

Will I have raised her to know better than all the lies that are out there telling her what will make her feel right by societies standards.

Will I have raised her to trust her instincts, her gut, her God...

To know she doesn't need any "magic" potion to feel amazing...beautiful...to be strong....to be healthy....

All she needs is:
GOD
Sleep...
Real Food...
Fun movement...

...and maybe then maybe some assistance to  support her already healthy lifestyle through herbs, minerals, essential oils...vitamins...things that are natural and not processed....

and lots and lots of SELF REFLECTION WITH GOD!!!

Thus, during your 21 day challenge of detoxing your mind, body, and soul....reflect on what suppliment is truly of help to you and your whole body health pursuits and which may be a crutch?